Our children and us

One of the most late researches about the human brain shows that child abuse and neglect don’t only damage the development of a child’s brain functions ,it t changes the actual structure of the brain itself ,and makes thinking, controlling emotions  and forming healthy social relationships more difficult.

Child abuse isn’t just about the physical harm that parents can cause, there are other signs can’t be seen. let’s mention ignoring child needs, putting him in dangerous situations, making him feel worthless etc. A simple action can leave a deep lasting scar on our kids.

The children are very sensitive at this stage of their life, you can shape them however you want. A psychological study of the university of ‘Massachusetts’ about child abuse showed a videotaped experiment of a mother laughing with her four-month-old baby who immediately starts to smile and clap his hands. On the second experiment the mother is told face her child with a blank expression, and that’s when you see the baby starting to feel uncomfortable, kick his feet trying to reach his mother. They deduced that children can be affected at a very young age specially with the people they mostly interact with.

We all agree that the parents are also human beings, and they have pressure, go through depressions, take exhausting responsibilities and some of them were victims of abuse or neglect. I personally believe that sometimes they can’t control their behavior and some of them don’t know any way to parent but violence. That’s why we need to stop and think again about these facts. Life isn’t just about providing ourselves and children with financial needs, it is much deeper than this. It’s the love you make them feel, the care you surround them with. If we sit and ask ourselves: “when was the last time I hugged my kids and had a normal conversation with them?” Or ‘’when was the last time a had a cup of warm milk with my kids?’’. Most of us didn’t have that much time to do it. In this situation neglect isn’t intentional, but the consequences are always the same. Parenting is the most holly feeling, when you carry your baby for nine months, when you hold him for the first time when you feel that joy, the protection that you provide your him with from the outside world must be from you first, because a parent can hurt his child in a much terrible way than society can do. Your children are watching everything you do very carefully so be the person they need you to be. Respect your children, show them love, positive behavior and attitude, try to understand their emotions and accept their opinions and your child will follow your suit.

Written by: Hadjadj wafa